Why I Keep a “Love” File

It’s nothing fancy—just a simple folder filled with cards. The usual kind people give for birthdays, anniversaries, or simple thank-yous.

I originally saved them for a couple of reasons. First, it just doesn’t feel right to toss a thoughtful card straight into the trash. I like to hang on to them for a while, to appreciate the person who spent time choosing just the right card and writing me a special note—oh, how I love handwritten notes❣️

Sometimes the artwork alone is too beautiful or interesting to hide away or throw out. So, I pin them to my office board, enjoying them for a spell. My family and close friends know I get giddy over art and expression. Often, the card itself—before I’ve even read the sentiment—feels like a gift in and of itself.

But eventually, there were just too many. And still, I couldn’t part with them. So, I created a file. A simple solution, really. I didn’t have to decide which to keep or whether to keep them at all. I figured if I was still debating it, that was reason enough to hold onto them a little—or a lot—longer.

I’m happy to report that I’m thrilled I kept them. They bring me joy, confidence, and love—over and over again.

The truth is, I get sad sometimes.

I’m not sure why.

All my dreams have come true—some of them more than once. I love my life. I know I’m incredibly fortunate.

Still, sadness sneaks up on me.

That’s where the “Deb’s Love” file helps.

I wonder if the people who sent me those cards realize how their words drown out the demons and lift me up. How much I appreciate the time they took to write even a few words in their own handwriting—handwriting that reveals so much of their personality. I appreciate the thought they gave to the exact card they chose for me. I know their choices were purposeful, and I’m so grateful for their effort.

Even just passing by the “Deb’s Love” tab makes me smile. Out loud. Every time.

I wish I had saved every card—or at least more of them—through the years.

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Which brings me to the other half of this story: how sharing kindness and simple compliments can brighten anyone’s day.

I’ve always lived by the mantra that if I feel something positive about someone—whether I know them or not—I should tell them. Not just a passing thought, but an intentional act. I still do this, always sincerely. It’s a North Star in my life, keeping me connected to people and grounded in gratitude.

And wouldn’t you know it? This small habit has become its own kind of medicine. For me, and for them.

Just this week, I stumbled on a video showing people before and after receiving the compliment that they are beautiful. Their faces changed. Their posture lifted.  The simple act of being seen—really seen—lit a spark inside them.

Then I came across another video—“Street Compliments.” This time, people knew a compliment was coming, but the joy was just as genuine. Vibrant smiles. Surprised laughter. That unmistakable light that comes from feeling valued.

And it’s not just a feeling—science agrees.

Compliments don’t just brighten a day; they fulfill some of our most basic human needs. Studies show they can boost confidence, improve self-esteem, and even activate the same reward centers in the brain as receiving money. Compliments strengthen relationships, foster trust, and create environments where people feel safe enough to express themselves freely.

A well-timed kind word doesn’t just lift someone’s spirits for a moment—it lingers. It motivates. It reduces stress. It literally makes people healthier and happier.

 

Kind words don’t just make people feel good in the moment. They linger. Sometimes tucked away in a drawer—or if you’re like me—filed carefully under a tab labeled “Love.”

So here’s to the compliments we give and the love we share—both the ones we receive and the ones we send back out into the world.

They don’t just brighten a day.

They brighten a life.

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